furiousgoldfish:

furiousgoldfish:

don’t allow abusers to talk as if they’ve never done anything wrong. remind them of what they’ve done. refuse to push it under the rug and pretend that nothing happened. say it to their face. demand that they own up to it.  if they get angry, you’re on a good track. they have no right to be angry about mention of something they’ve done. if they didn’t want it mentioned, they shouldn’t have done it.

guys this wasn’t supposed to be an advice to victims, but to people who can safely confront them without putting themselves in danger, it’s what I want the rest of the world to do, people who aren’t facing being killed for it. 

but victims should know that they have every right to do this, and only reason not to is an imminent threat of abuse, if you’re safe from abusers then absolutely do this. (unless you’re no-contact in that case don’t contact them just shit about them behind their back)