lifeofcynch:

connie-is-male:

Why you can’t be transgender without dysphoria

The very meaning of gender dysphoria is to feel discomfort with the gender you were assigned at birth. Therefore, if you don’t feel discomfort with that gender, you are cis. How can you believe that you’re male when you’re comfortable with being treated as a girl, referred to as a girl, and presenting as a girl? If you would be happy living as your assigned gender for the rest of your life, you do not have dysphoria, and you are not transgender. If you would not be comfortable doing that, you are transgender, and you have dysphoria. The two come together as a package, because they are the same thing.

Trust me, although some people may be under the impression that being trans is cool or edgy, it is neither. It is a psychological disorder, and it fucks you up real good. To even suggest that you could be transgender without dysphoria is, frankly, an insult to those of us who actually suffer without choice. It’s like saying you have depression without being depressed.

Now, if you’re one of those who feels that they are transgender but don’t experience gender dysphoria, I want you to think for a second. Does being called by the pronouns for your assigned gender make you uncomfortable? Do you look at the opposite sex and wish you looked like them? Do you feel more comfortable dressing, acting and being recognised as a different gender?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, guess what? That’s gender dysphoria. People seem to believe that gender dysphoria and self-hatred go hand in hand, but that isn’t true. I have dysphoria, but I don’t hate my body, I just know that it isn’t the right one for me. I look at cis men and wish that I looked that way, sounded that way, acted that way. My female body makes me uncomfortable, but I don’t hate it.

If you answered no to all of those questions, you’re cisgender. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I understand wanting to be special, I really do, but this sort of thing is not to be claimed nonchalantly. If you decided you would be transgender, then you’re not transgender at all. None of us chose to be this way.

There is nothing wrong with being cis, and there is nothing wrong with being trans. There is also nothing wrong with wanting to feel special and individual. However, there is a line that can be crossed, and this is crossing it.